Moms come and go with their children. Some finish well and others bail out early. Just like most people…our moms want to do what they want to do.
“For although they knew God, they did not honor him as God or give thanks to him, but they became futile in their thinking, and their foolish hearts were darkened. Claiming to be wise, they became fools, and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images…” Romans 1:21-23
I am sure I have shared this before but…other than leading them to Christ, our second object is to guide them to use wisdom over feelings. We want them to make good decisions about their future and to consider how it will effect their child. The one thing that complicates this effort is that most of the ladies that come to us have some form of RAD (Reactive Attachment Disorder.) The study that was the foundation of this diagnosis was based on examinations conducted here in Romania on infant and toddlers in orphanages in the early 90’s. (read more about RAD).
This study showed the effect of extreme deprivation in infancy. The temporal lobes, which regulate emotions and receives input from the senses, are nearly quiescent. Yet, none of these now young adults in our program have ever been properly diagnosed. However, it is evident in their behavior. We believe that God can rewire and heal the brain, and humans can create healthy habits. We can give them both secular and biblically based tools and we can share the changing and healing power of CHRIST, but each person has to see their need for God and want a renewed life.
Knowing all this doesn’t make it any easier when one of our “least of these,” chooses to leave. Despite my desire to see them stay, learn and grow in Jesus, Iby and her daughter are no longer with us. As you know, I have known Iby for 10 years which makes this all the more difficult. With the support of my home church, my church leadership here, and my staff, we decided to leave Iby over to her foolish thinking. In our last effort, we got Iby’s church leadership involved and yet she still decided to move to Germany without our blessing. I pray for them daily and I trust that my God is mighty to save.
Alway in my Heart, Sue Volpe